I totally agree with you. Patriarchal indoctrination has robbed us, I still react in some old ways though I have come a very long way. Also this posturing and pandering to white condescension? Took me decades to become conscious of it.
I think you refer to Farida Khanum. Exceptional singer trained in the classical tradition. I’m happy you like her ghazals.
Be safe and khuda hafiz, dear free spirit! May you always roam free. 🙏🏽🤗